5 things your social life might need right now
No one ever tells you how to make new friends or how to maintain a decent social life when you’re an adult. And there definitely aren’t any explanations for how to do it when you’re disabled, which can make it even harder. But it’s way too easy to isolate yourself and find that you’re just a little too comfortable being alone. Sometimes it helps to step back and take a look at your life.
Your social life and spending time with others really matters and feeds into your mental health, so if there’s a problem it’s worth the effort to try and fix. I’ve definitely gone through long periods of loneliness where I had to figure out what I could do to make it better. If you’re dealing with that too, here are just a few things your social life might be in need of.
Sometimes it feels like you need to latch on harder when actually, you might need to let go a bit. Socializing takes effort and energy. It definitely can reach a point where it goes from being a comfort to just being exhausting. Maybe you’re hanging out with the wrong people or maybe you’re just overextending yourself, but regardless, there’s nothing wrong with saying you just need some time to yourself for your mental health. My friends and I love hanging out, but we’re also comfortable telling each other when we’re just too tired and need to be alone.
On the other hand, maybe you need to hang out with more people. I’ve always been the type of person to have a really small group of close friends, but it can be really great to meet someone new. It’s a good thing to be surrounded by people that have new or different opinions to your own, to challenge you and help each other grow. Maybe you need to be around someone who loves the same things as you because none of your friends share your favorite hobby. Or maybe you’re just bored and feel like getting to know someone! You never know when there’s a potential best friend just waiting to be met.
Sometimes when it feels like you need to improve your social life, you might just need to be more active. I tend to hang out with my friends a lot at home. So even though I’m socializing plenty, I still feel like I have no life. That’s when I need to be going out more regularly. Making plans to go somewhere new or try something that always looked fun can make a huge difference for your friend group. It’ll give you something new to talk about and some new memories. Plus it’ll just feel good to be out with the people you care about. You don’t need to spend a ton of money either! Go on a picnic, find a new park and take cute pictures, or volunteer somewhere together. You might have to get creative, but that can be part of the fun.
Change your spending habits
Since I’ve never had a ton of money, I’ve gotten pretty good at prioritizing when it comes to spending. If you’re anxious about how much you wind up eating out with friends because of how much you’re spending, suggest cooking meals with each other instead. If you love going out for drinks, see what other cost you can cut instead. Maybe look at the Hulu Plus price or how much you’re buying coffee and decide which is worth more to you. Impulse spending can be super fun, sure. But sometimes it’s better to avoid the regret and take a minute to decide if something is worth your money or not.
Make decisions for yourself
At the end of the day, it’s up to your friends to do what’s best for them and up to you to do what’s best for you. And sometimes, this can be really hard to work on. But no one is going to make the changes for you. Your happiness is worth the effort.
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