Things my mom has taught me
This week was super important for two reasons. First, the election – which I hope you all voted in! And secondly – it’s my momma’s birthday week! Her birthday was yesterday and we spent the day rewatching Stranger Things and eating takeout food because if anyone knows us, they know our favorite activities include junk food and binge watching. Which is why your post is late, mom. I was too busy hanging out and loving your company. Definitely not because I was procrastinating. Nope. Definitely not that.
Anyway, I know everyone says their mom is the best, but I’m sorry pals, mine is clearly the best. She’s incredibly generous but takes no shit. She prioritizes everyone’s happiness and comfort before her own. I have multiple sources who can confirm she makes the best sandwiches, I could go on, but the point is she’s pretty great.
Something I really love about her is that she’s never shied away from saying what she thinks. That itself is something I think everyone should learn, especially girls. Speak up and say what you mean because your opinion is important. I haven’t always been the best at that, but I’ve always admired it about her.
My mom definitely has a lot of opinions to share, but she also doesn’t really understand how the internet works. So, since I’ve learned so much from her, I thought I’d share some her greatest hits for her!
If you love something, buy it in every color
Oh, mom. She’s a big supporter fo treating yourself when you can. She’s also a big fan of shoes, purses, accessories, or anything that sparkles. And when she loves something, she wants it in every possible color option. My mom has always filled her home with things that make her happy, and I back it.
Be nice, whether or not you think they deserve it
I’m the kind of person who holds onto grudges and pettiness for decades. There are members of my family I’ve completely written out and there are a handful of people I even hold grudges against on my moms behalf. Because she just won’t.
If someone needs my mom’s help, she’s going to help them. Even if they just had a fight. Even if they wouldn’t help her if the roles were reversed. She’s always told me to treat people well, not because it’s what they do or don’t deserve. But because that’s the kind of person you want to be and you know it’s right.
Unless they’re racist/ableist/homophobic/etc. Because h*ck those guys.
There’s not a man in the world worth making yourself smaller for
If a man treats you like shit, toss em out. There’s not a woman in the world who needs a man, and it’s better to be a single mom with a happy family than to stay with someone who treats you horribly.
If you’re going to do something, do it well
Whenever my mom does a project, she wants to start and finish it in one sitting. She won’t rush through it, either. If it takes her all day, you better believe she’s going to set up camp and finish it. I get lazy and if I can get away with the bare minimum on something I don’t really care about, I’m going to slack off. But my mom has always told me to take the time and effort to put my best effort in. Why even do something if you’re just going to half ass it? Ugh. It’s annoying when she’s right.
Make an effort to think of others as often as you think of yourself
One of my very favorite things about my mom is how often she thinks of others. I think it was last year, my brother and I took her shopping for her birthday. We told her she could pick out anything she wanted and we’d get it for her. What did she do? Start picking out presents for her sister!
When anyone stays with us, she fills the bathroom with their favorite shampoos. She plans out meals they’d love, stocks up on snacks they like, and makes little welcome gift bags. If she’s running errands and remembers you mentioned needing a bottle opener or a gallon of milk, she gets it for you and refuses to let you pay her back. No matter what she’s going through, she never stops taking care of everyone around her.