How to stop saying ‘no’ to new experiences
There can be plenty of good reasons to say no, but letting your insecurity or anxiety make the decision for you is definitely not one of them. You shouldn’t hold yourself back from experiences you might enjoy or really want to try.
While you don’t need to start saying yes to everything, here are some ways you can start turning a ‘no thank you’ into a ‘yes please’ and start opening yourself up to new experiences.
Try one new thing a week
Sometimes life becomes like that episode of Spongebob where Squidward moves to the perfect neighborhood and he ends up doing the same exact thing every day before he decides to go back home. We get into a routine and it gets monotonous and boring. You wake up at the end of the week and realize you lost 5 days and have nothing to show for them.
From today, start trying one new thing a week. It could be a new sandwich filling or a restaurant, a new shade of lipstick or even a new TV show – just make sure that you do something that you’ve never done before. Make it easier by making a list – this will help you to think of plenty of ideas that will keep you going. Once you become comfortable with your weekly ‘new thing’, maybe you can challenge yourself to do something new every day.
It doesn’t sound like much, but forcing yourself to branch out in small ways makes it easier to branch out in bigger ways. Then, when opportunities do present themselves, you’ll feel less likely to hesitate.
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Get yourself a ‘fun fund’
Sometimes, it’s not your confidence that’s holding you back from doing what you want to do, it’s your money. Or rather, your lack of money. That’s usually my problem. Sometimes I’m afraid to buy something from the dollar menu at McDonald’s because it feels like too much money. Yikes.
You’re allowed to splurge sometimes, though. I know sometimes it makes you feel guilty, but it’s important to spend money on fun things, too. You need a fun fund! By giving yourself a ‘fun fund’, you can set aside money that can be used towards going out with friends, shows, vacations and anything else you might want to do.
If (and it’s a big if, so be honest with yourself) you’re the responsible type, you can always use a credit card to pay for things in the short-term for any spontaneous opportunities that pop-up and you don’t want to miss. There are even secured credit cards for bad credit if you haven’t had much luck with credit before. Being responsible with your money 99% of the time means you can afford to take a risk every now and then, so make sure you don’t miss out on fun because of it. Adulting!
Offer alternatives instead
If you feel uncomfortable with the invitation being offered, like going to a concert, for example, make sure you think it through before you say no. You might find that the obstacles you’re considering of aren’t actually as hard to overcome as you originally thought. If it really is a ‘no can do’, why not offer alternatives instead? Doing this could help others to discover new things too, so it could be a win-win for everyone.
No one said it’s easy, but there are ways you can work on your confidence and self-esteem to make it not so hard to say yes. Start opening yourself up to new experiences today and let go of the person who says no to everything.