Making the most of a crappy situation
I do not want to be in Florida right now.
I’ll let you in on a secret: it’s Tuesday for you, but I’m writing this the previous Friday. Why? Because Irma is on her way and I’m preparing for the worst, which includes power outages for days.
I know I wrote all about my hurricane prep and why I’m not evacuating already, but to be honest, it’s hard to think about anything other than the storm bigger than my entire state headed straight for me. Let’s be real, it sucks.
Sometimes life throws a crappy situation at you and you don’t have any option but to deal with it.
Right now, that’s Hurricane Irma for us. For some people, it’s huge fires or earthquakes. Sometimes it’s every day things like unemployment or a horrible boss, a breakup or a fight with a friend. No matter who you are or where you live, we all go through not so pleasant things.
I know (believe me I do) that it’s easier said than done, but sometimes you just have to force yourself to make the best of a crappy situation. Here’s what I do to try and stay positive:
Be kind to yourself
Sometimes high stress situations can bring out the worst in your inner voice. We’re quick to criticize ourselves for how we deal with life, to remind ourselves of everything we should have done, and to basically just be jerks.
You’re going through enough, don’t make things harder than they already are by not being kind to yourself. Compliment yourself! Congratulate yourself for getting through tough times like a champion! Take those selfies and tweet how proud you are of your strength. Love yourself, because you’re doing your best and you’re wonderful.
Surround yourself with people who make you happy
No matter how alone you feel, I promise there are people who care about you. Surround yourself with the people who make you feel good about yourself, the ones who make you smile and laugh the hardest. I know what it’s like when no one like that is physically near you, but the internet can still keep you guys close! I spent years where the only places I could hang out with my friends were Skype, Twitter, or Tumblr.
Hang out with your people in person if you can, but if you can’t text them! Snapchat them! Do whatever works for you guys, and remember that it’s okay to need other people.
Find any and all good things and celebrate them
Hurricanes aren’t easy, but at least I have a sturdy apartment that isn’t in a flood zone! I don’t have anyone to go stay with somewhere else, but at least I don’t live alone. I’ll have my family, my cat, and tons of snacks. I have an actual excuse to eat nothing but chips, cookies, and other junk food.
Every time I start getting overwhelmed, it helps to remind myself of something positive, and there is always something positive. Sometimes it’s just the little things, but they’re worth celebrating.
Give yourself a comforting space filled with things that make you happy
I made a basket of activities to keep my mind off the weather. Coloring books, a puzzle book, my bullet journal, and some sketchbooks. I also brought out all my favorite board games. I’m going to wear my favorite PJs and cuddle all of my stuffed animals.
None of these things will change the situation, but they’re going to make it a lot easier to get through. Some things are out of control, but not everything. Let yourself indulge in whatever it is that comforts you, from your favorite music to your favorite pair of socks to a special flavor of potato chips. Treat yo self!
Let yourself be upset
You can try your best and make a constant effort to be positive and make the most of a situation, but sometimes it’s not enough. It’s okay to be upset. It’s okay to struggle and be sad, hurt, angry, scared, whatever. It’s okay to not be okay.
Sometimes we need to let ourselves feel like crap before we can start feeling better. If that’s where you’re at, you don’t need to feel guilty or ashamed of it! Just take care of yourself as best as you can, and know that you can ask for help at any point you feel necessary.
It’s going to be okay.
What do you do to make the most of a crappy situation?