Hiding behind distractions
Speaking from experience, you can totally be all for self love, body positivity, and embracing who you are and your passions but struggle to do that yourself. So many of us find it incredibly difficult to be completely comfortable in their own skin. Especially if you deal with anxiety, because it will contradict every positive thing you tell yourself.
Trusting your instincts gets harder and harder when you’re dealing with your anxieties or going through a particularly difficult time. One thing that I’ve found is pretty common is that it becomes really easy for someone to mask their mental health struggles with distractions. I know I’ve done this, especially with social media. It’s a lot easier to share your opinions and be silly or carefree online than it is in person.
But why is it that it’s so much easier to hide behind our anxieties than to actually deal with it? Oh yeah, probably because therapy is expensive, and so is medicine. Yikes. So we do the best they can and find a way to get through life as painlessly as possible.
Finding something to lean on
My twenties have been way more stressful than I ever imagined they would be as a kid. You’re told this is supposed to be some of your best years of your life, but pretty much everyone I know can agree that they’re some of the most difficult. So, we find something we can lean on.
For some people, that’s going out with friends. For others, it’s binging on Netflix all day and ordering takeout more than they should (guilty!). Other people turn towards a more productive habit, like exercise or working all the time. And other people turn to things like drinking and going out.
But whichever it is, we turn it into a habit. Habits are already hard to break, let alone when that habit has become your safety net or comfort zone. Sometimes then you look around and see that you’re just kind of stuck and realize you have to figure out how to socialize again or learn how to stop drinking. We all need to give ourselves a break every once in a while, but it sucks to let something that we lean on start to stand in the way of making progress while also being something that drains us of our money.
Figuring yourself out
I’m almost 27 and I’m learning new things about myself all the time. You can spend so long trying to figure out the kind of person you want to be only to come to the realization that you’ve been heading in the wrong direction all along. AKA me, spending 5 years getting a business degree. And yeah, that can be a pretty scary thing to think about.
So, we can distract ourselves because we’re worried about what mistakes we might make or what we might find out, but at the end of the day most of it is out of our control anyway. Enjoy the ride, because it’s the only one you have. We’re all messy and confused, but we’ll get where we need to be eventually, right?
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