Gentle reminders for those times when asking for help makes you anxious
Have you ever felt stuck because you need to do something but the thought of asking for help makes you so anxious you’re worried you’ll throw up if you’re not careful? I’m sure I can’t be the only one who gets self conscious about asking for help for so much, but it’s ridiculous, right?
Sometimes I have full on anxiety attacks because I don’t want to be too annoying or seem too helpless. Even for things as silly as asking someone to open a door for me! I’ve been dealing with this my whole life, but it’s something I’m really trying to work on. I’m tired of feeling sick every time I go to work because I’m so panicked I might have to ask a co-worker for help.
For all the people that struggle with the same thing, here are a few of the gentle reminders I tell myself when I’m feeling anxious about asking for help!
People are usually a lot more understanding than you’d think
There are a lot of assholes in the world, sure. But honestly, no one is going to judge you too harshly for asking for a small favor or reaching out for some help.
Y’know, most people actually love helping each other out. It feels nice! Sometimes when I’m feeling self conscious, I just reverse the situation and imagine how I’d react. Give people the benefit of the doubt and trust that they’re not going to mind.
Everyone needs a little help from time to time
Every single person on the planet! No one can do everything by themselves. Would you expect your best friend to never ask you for a favor? Of course not!
It’s not your fault if you can’t do something by yourself
Don’t ever beat yourself up for not being 100% independent 100% of the time. It’s not your fault and it doesn’t say anything negative about you as a person. You’re amazing!
You don’t need to feel guilty
Needing help doesn’t make you a burden. It’s nothing bad or anything to be ashamed of, and there is absolutely no reason to ever feel guilty.
It’s only a big deal in your head, not in anyone else’s
When we’re anxious, we build things up in our head until it seems like a catastrophe. We dwell on situations that make us feel embarrassed or awkward and then we think about them for far too long.
I think we’re all at least a little guilty of being too hard on ourselves, but let’s be real here. No one else remembers those moments that embarrass us every time we think about them. So, if you need to ask for something, just ask! People are going to be worried about their own lives and forget in a day.
Accepting help doesn’t lessen your accomplishments
Graduating from college is incredible, no matter how many hours of tutoring you need. A promotion is still an amazing achievement, even if you’ll need a lot of help getting started!
You don’t need to do everything on your own for your accomplishments to be meaningful. Needing help along the way doesn’t take away the value of your hard work.